Church hurt is real. It’s not just a bad experience or a misunderstanding, it’s deep, painful, and often leaves scars that make people question their faith, their worth, and even God. When the place meant to be a refuge becomes a source of pain, it can feel like betrayal.
Maybe it was judgment instead of grace. Maybe it was manipulation instead of love. Maybe it was rejection when you needed acceptance most.
Whatever it was, your hurt is valid. And if you’ve walked away from church because of it, I get it.
But hear this: God is not the church that hurt you. People fail, leaders fall short, and institutions get it wrong, but God is still good. Healing is possible. Safe spaces exist. You are seen, you are loved, and your pain matters.
If you’re carrying church hurt, I’m praying you find healing, whether that’s through community, therapy, or simply time in God’s presence. You don’t have to go back to the place that broke you, but don’t let it keep you from the One who can heal you.
If you’re looking for the perfect church, you won’t find it. Why? Because churches are made up of people, and people are imperfect. We make mistakes, we fall short, and sometimes we even hurt each other.
But here’s the truth: A church doesn’t have to be perfect to be a place of growth, healing, and community. A healthy church isn’t one without flaws; it’s one that acknowledges them, seeks accountability, and pursues grace.
If you’ve been hurt by church before, I get it. And if you’re hesitant to try again, that’s understandable. But don’t give up on finding a community where you can grow in faith, even if it’s messy sometimes. The church isn’t about perfection, it’s about Jesus, and He is worth it.
I was proud to be a part of what I thought was the perfect church for imperfect people. A place where grace covered flaws, and love met you where you were.
Turns out, it was actually the perfect church for perfect people. And I don’t qualify for that vibe.
Because I’m the least of these, the broken, the messy, the one still figuring it out. But if I know anything about Jesus, He’s sitting at the table with people like me. And that’s the kind of church I want to be a part of.
Church hurt is real. And if you’ve felt it, I see you. But don’t confuse people’s failures with God’s heart. Jesus is still for the broken, the outcast, the ones who don’t have it all together. And there’s still a place for us at His table.
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